By Sam Guthrie
In our ever-evolving digitally connected world, maintaining a meaningful connection to our loved ones’ mental well-being can sometimes be challenging. However, even a single conversation with a friend or family member in distress can offer crucial emotional support and potentially avert crises. Recognizing mental health struggles isn’t always straightforward, and discussing mental health or suicidal thoughts may seem daunting to some. At EveryMind, we believe in nurturing the power of community and conversation. Let’s explore why check-ins matter and get equipped with some effective strategies for broaching these critical, yet often intimidating, topics.
The Power of a Check-In:
Mental health permeates every facet of an individual’s life. Checking in with someone telegraphs your regard for them, validates their emotions, and fosters a safe environment where vital conversations can happen. By doing so, we also get the chance to intervene early in their struggle, providing help before their situation spirals into a crisis. The act of caring, of showing that you value them and their experience, can greatly enhance or even save their life.
The Art of Effective Mental Health Check-Ins:
Choose the Right Time and Place:
Having the conversation in an environment that’s comfortable, private, and peaceful ensures that both parties won’t feel hurried or interrupted.
Convey Empathy:
Empathy, a genuine interest in their well-being, and a non-judgmental approach foster connection and reassurance. Avoid conveying sympathy, which can inadvertently be perceived as judgmental or patronizing.
Actively Listen:
While your loved one unravels their feelings, refrain from interrupting. Show them you’re attentive through eye contact and body language. Encourage them to voice their emotions and thoughts, even if it takes time.
Ask Necessary Questions:
Initiate the conversation with non-threatening, open-ended questions like, “How have you been feeling lately?” Later, when comfortable, don’t shy away from inquiring directly about harmful thoughts. Even if it feels awkward, understanding their mindset is crucial to provide the required support.
Validate, Validate, Validate:
Acknowledgment of feelings without judgment is paramount. We don’t necessarily need to approve of their thoughts; instead, convey there’s no wrong way for them to feel.
Avoid Immediate Problem-Solving:
Understand if they just want to vent, instead of offering solutions right away except in crisis situations. Coping strategies and next steps can always be discussed later.
Offer Support:
Specify the type of support you are comfortable providing such as a listening ear, accompanying them on walks, or helping them seek professional help or community resources.
Respect Their Privacy:
If they’re not ready to disclose their mental health issues yet, respect their choice. Assure them you’re there when they’re ready to talk.
Follow Up:
It’s essential to stay in touch and make sure help is sought if needed.
Offering Support while Ensuring Self-Care:
We can help foster a compassionate and mentally healthy community by offering empathy, active listening, and willingness to support each other. As you extend your hand to support others, remember to care for your own well-being too. Reach out to trusted circles, prioritize self-care activities, exercise, or consult a mental health professional if necessary. You’re part of an incredible community, and your contribution to our collective effort is invaluable. Let’s continue to unlock potential, overcome challenges, and nurture the light in all of our community members through our care and unity.